Though it is a wide known fact that it is very difficult to live with in laws, but living apart is also not so rosy. This situation worsens when you stay in a foreign country or different city as your in laws keep a constant vigilant over you, thanks to all the technological inventions telephone, internet, video calls, etc. To add to all these, your better halves would be over excited to share little details of your everyday lives with your in laws. Thus it becomes a lifetime interference. Please read below some practical tips that you should follow:
1. Avoid regular calls - Many newly wed brides call their in laws everyday to show their affection for them. With this they set the expectations in the mind of the in laws and the day they dont call for whatever reasons, they have to give reasons for not calling. Or if you call everyday, there might be some topics where both of you will differ and lead to quarrels. Instead of this, you may call on random days and on festivals. This will not set any expectations in the mind of the inlaws. They may not like it in the beginning, but then they will get used to it.
2. Respect your in laws - Show excessive respect for your in laws in front of your husband. Be very polite and soft. For this you need not sacrifice anything, just be polite
3. Low expectations - Set a very low expectation right from the beginning. Dont involve yourself in showing what an ideal daughter in law you are, as you are sure to regret it later in life
4. Be independent financially - If you are a working woman, keep your own bank account. Don't mix it with your spouse's money because there will come a time when your husband will claim everything as his and no contribution from your end
5. Vacations - When you go on vaccations, stay with your family. If your husband says to stay at the in laws, just visit them for few hours now and again. If he insist you to stay equally at both places, just divide it equally, not a day extra
6. Don't comprise on quality life - Spend to have the best of life irrespective of any savings happening at the end of the day, because money saved will be the extra money spent on your in laws apart from the regular paychecks.
Remember, never sacrifice for your in laws, because if you do you will only end up regretting and if you dont you will be treated better, and will have peace of mind.
This article particularly applies to the wives of the sub continent and I think its true in 80% of the cases, let me know your views. In laws here refers to the husbands brothers, sisters, their spouses and kids.
1. Avoid regular calls - Many newly wed brides call their in laws everyday to show their affection for them. With this they set the expectations in the mind of the in laws and the day they dont call for whatever reasons, they have to give reasons for not calling. Or if you call everyday, there might be some topics where both of you will differ and lead to quarrels. Instead of this, you may call on random days and on festivals. This will not set any expectations in the mind of the inlaws. They may not like it in the beginning, but then they will get used to it.
2. Respect your in laws - Show excessive respect for your in laws in front of your husband. Be very polite and soft. For this you need not sacrifice anything, just be polite
3. Low expectations - Set a very low expectation right from the beginning. Dont involve yourself in showing what an ideal daughter in law you are, as you are sure to regret it later in life
4. Be independent financially - If you are a working woman, keep your own bank account. Don't mix it with your spouse's money because there will come a time when your husband will claim everything as his and no contribution from your end
5. Vacations - When you go on vaccations, stay with your family. If your husband says to stay at the in laws, just visit them for few hours now and again. If he insist you to stay equally at both places, just divide it equally, not a day extra
6. Don't comprise on quality life - Spend to have the best of life irrespective of any savings happening at the end of the day, because money saved will be the extra money spent on your in laws apart from the regular paychecks.
Remember, never sacrifice for your in laws, because if you do you will only end up regretting and if you dont you will be treated better, and will have peace of mind.
This article particularly applies to the wives of the sub continent and I think its true in 80% of the cases, let me know your views. In laws here refers to the husbands brothers, sisters, their spouses and kids.
